All of us want to feel connected to our better self. That’s when we’re likely to be at our happiest. But inwardly many of us spend much of the time feeling disconnected from our better or best self. Our state of psychological disconnection is subtle and often unrecognized … [Read more...] about How We Disconnect from Our Better Self
Make Sense of Your Suffering
When it comes to our inner life, many of us are like newborns fluttering our eyes, trying to fathom a mysterious world that makes no sense to us. Not only is this inner world opaque, but our mind rebels when presented with the startling knowledge that exposes our compulsive … [Read more...] about Make Sense of Your Suffering
Ten Ways to Know Yourself
How do you get to know yourself, to find yourself, to like or love yourself? You establish a foundation of self-respect and integrity. You ground yourself in your essential goodness, worthiness, and strength. We can do this by becoming more attuned to the unconscious … [Read more...] about Ten Ways to Know Yourself
The Interplay of Neurosis and Democracy
The deeper the insight, the more we resist it. Like wild animals reacting to their reflection in a mirror, we are shocked to see an unknown self. Why are we shocked? In the mirror of self-knowledge, we see the extent of our self-deception—plus our unconscious pursuit of … [Read more...] about The Interplay of Neurosis and Democracy
A Case of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)
This post is an excerpt from a psychotherapy session I had with a client. The post provides deep insight into aspects of PAS, and it also serves as an example of how my telephone sessions typically proceed. The name Carol is a pseudonym, and the content here has been edited and … [Read more...] about A Case of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)